How to get over a fear of success.

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In order for me to write about fear I have to reveal a little about my journey.

I honestly didn't think I had an issue with success. Until I had an interesting conversation with a friend. She looked at me and said, "You give so much, that I don't think you value yourself enough."

My honest expression was "Huh?" 

So I sat with this comment and let it marinate within my mind. I didn't defend or deny it, I just reflected. Then I realized that what I didn't value was my success

Whoa... stop the press! How did I get to this place in my life? I had a real "aha" moment. I literally sabotaged myself to fail because success seemed too good for me.

Success is a belief, long before it becomes a reality. Yet it’s in that hallowed place of inception that we fear the delivery. Let fear pass, breathe and deliver. You are meant to succeed!
— Ho'omālamalama

So many thoughts streamed into my mind and I did the only thing possible, I wrote my thoughts and feelings down in my MAKE MAHALO PLANNER. [Mahalo: Hawaiian for gratitude or thank you.]

Pen in hand, I began a stream of conscious writing, a technique I learned from a good friend. This flow lasted for a solid five minutes. As I gazed down at my writing it revealed some of my inner struggles. It was as if my subconscious finally had my attention.

So if you're dealing with lack of self-respect, inability to charge for your services or constantly wondering... "What happened to my goals and dreams?" This post is for all of us. I too had a fear of success that prevented me from reaching my potential.

The 12 questions are from my personal experience. 

Notate any feelings or emotions that may arise. Have an open mind and willingness to finish the entire post. Trust me, this blog gets better towards the end.

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If you answered "YES" to any of these don't feel bad.

Like I said earlier these were written from personal experience. Look at the list without judgement but empathy. The same kindness that you would show to a friend, become that friend. Maybe pause and give yourself a hug for being brave enough to read the entire list. [BIG HUG]

Now if you've reached this portion and feel alone and overwhelmed, don't be. I can help in three ways. First, continue to read through the end of this blogpost for the 12 Steps to an abundant mindset. Second, read the eBook I wrote called WALK IN BEAUTY; unlock your potential. Third, become a MERMAID; join my email list because there's a possibility that you can work with me. 

12 Steps to an abundant mindset.

  1. Be excited when starting something new and break down your plan into smaller steps. Sometimes we give up mid-way because the excitement can make us feel overwhelmed. Take time to write down your idea and create simple task.
  2. STOP comparing yourself! That's one of the worse things any human being can do. There's a saying in my home, "Your only competition is  NO-ONE, just be your best!"
  3. You don't have to start every project that comes to your creative mind. Get a box and label it IDEAS then write them down with a date. Honor your creativity but don't get distracted. Have a place to revisit your ideas when you've completed what you started. 
  4. Learn to say NO. Abundance doesn't mean that you're saying yes to everyone. Reserve some time in the day to honor your wellness. You can not reverse time but you can spend it wisely.
  5. Be cautious. Before you promote someone's product, fundraiser or Facebook page consider if they're doing the same for you? This also applies to love. Do you receive love, at the same measure or more that you give it. [Lessons of LOVE are in my eBook.]
  6. You can not give from an empty cup. Make a habit of self-care and schedule it weekly. Abundance is a reflection of your inner and exterior health.
  7. Create rituals of motivation. It can be centered around your spiritual practice or keeping a gratitude journal. Because there will come a time when you have to draw from a well of inspiration. Make sure that you're filling that well, your mind, with good thoughts.
  8. When feeling mundane... acknowledge it and do step #7. An abundant mind isn't void of sorrow or mishaps but it is equipped with tools of inspiration.
  9. When you realize that success made a detour don't stress out. History is jammed packed with individuals who met with opposition after opposition. Borrow their stories and use it to help you realign, adjust and reimagine your dream.
  10. Allow yourself to experience simple successes. It will help rebuild your self confidence and eventually you will step into fulfilling that previous dream. [For some it can be loosing a few inches or learning to play the piano.]
  11. Breathe. The opposite of fear is love and abundance. You can not change what you will not acknowledge. This awakening will allow you to embrace success. Your success!
  12. Failure is an indication that your dream is closer then you think. Keep moving, you'll get there. Just remember that you can always ask for help.       

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How to use a habit-tracker. YouTube tutorial

September's Challenge...

Is to track your habits!!! Shocking right? Actually I've been writing, talking and posting about using an HT for awhile now. The time has finally come.

Options - you can track a current habit or learn a new one. It's up to you.

Rules - Set your intentions, tell 5 people that your doing this and DON'T GIVE UP.

How - Download & print the HT then watch the YouTube tutorial.

Goal - Enjoy the process. Make it fun and symbolic. Keep it simple! I suggest working on two at a time.

The one and only benefit is to DISCOVER who YOU are to become who YOU desire to be. Track a habit, rule your world.
— Ho'omālamalama

Guess what... this is perfect for children & youth too! Imagine teaching holistic habits at such a young age. I created this video because I was asked to show how I use an HT, so here it is. Enjoy and let me know if there are other holistic topics that you would like to read about.

Habit Tracker

What do your habits reveal?

I think habits are fascinating because it happens without us realizing. Almost as if your brain and body are on autopilot. Exploring our, "why" as in why-we-do-anything comes from the early stages of a habit.

Habits reveal so much about our life-style and environment. Which is obvious right? Well... not always. It's not obvious because we're not paying attention to ourselves. We're too busy looking after others to notice what's going on right under our noses.

Which is why I created a free pdf called: Habit Tracker. Catchy title right. In this post I'll cover how to create, use and why we all need it. You can even get younger ones involved. [Keep reading]  

SPECIAL NOTE:

The content in this post might change your life for the better but that depends 100% on you. It's the action you take, which will make all the difference. Set your intention right now to take action. [Grab your Habit Tracker now.]

Start paying attention to yourself while tracking your habits. It's not a mystery why some things work and others don't. Our subconscious is always gathering information but we're not always aware of it. That info becomes part of our thought process and can turn into habits. Some habits are helpful, while others have the ability to slowly damage our wellbeing. With a habit-tracker [HT] you can log in your activity in a non judgmental way.   The spaces are large enough to...

  • Color
  • Doodle
  • Stamp
  • Use Stickers
  • Paint 
  • Embellish
  • Mark [x]

I created this HT to be larger than most so it can offer reflective moments. It's other purpose is to take up space, so put it on your fridge. It can help you understand where you are and where you want to be. I hope you create a habit around tracking and settle down with some tea and fill it out daily. Don't forget to use #WholelisticFit when posting or sharing your results. You might get featured.

In understanding the infinite, unmeasurable possibilities that I am capable of, I must first know the habits I possess.
— Ho'omālamalama
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How to create it.

I added a YouTube video but in my situation I didn't watch any particular vlogger. It was a simple start, in the beginning, I wanted to track my water intake for a month. So I used stickers on my planner page. Each cup of water was marked with a sticker on that day. Eventually I wanted to track other things.

To make your own you need three [3] things. You can determine the intensity or its simplicity.

  1. Something to represent a "tick" mark.
  2. Somewhere to mark it.
  3. Someplace to post or put it.  

How to use it.

When starting, I suggest you keep it simple. Don't try to HT twelve [12] different habits. Start with two [2]. You can use it to HT a current habit like 'drinking water' or a desired habit such as marking your AB or Plank challenge. I think the biggest habit to incorporate is to remember to mark your HT daily. 

Why do we need it?

First of all let me give you some background. At some point in my life I was trained and worked as a Chiropractic Assistant [CA]. Than I took it to the next level and became a Registered Nutritional Consultant Practitioner [RNCP] in eastern and western nutrition. It was my job to reveal the report of findings, basically what the DC found. Aside from the car injury clients everyone else would get the, "If you change a few habits" speech.

That resonated with me since so many of our diseases [Dis-Ease] are connected to life-style. This was the beginning of my holistic journey. A time in my life where I read labels, considered what I ate and where it came from. Unfortunately I had already loss a lot of loved ones to diabetes, heart disease and lung cancer. My mission was to help those around me. Did they listen? Not always because they refused to change a few habits. And when they finally decided to make a change it was too late, since the desire to change was the result of a doctors persuasion. Which typically resulted in a bunch of drugs and weekly visits.  

Do we need to wait for a WAKE-UP call on our health or can we maintain wellness? 

Start today, Below is a sample of the Habit Tracker I created for my Mermaids. 

WholelisticFit's Habit-Tracker

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Habits and Rituals

HABITS: trained to do.

RITUAL: habit with heart.

Habits are always happening regardless of them being negative or positive. It becomes a part of our daily lives and we might not even notice our habits. Like the way you hold a pen, where you place your keys or how often you drink water. Even sloppiness can turn into a habit.

Rituals, however are significant because it allows you to take a habit and make it soulful. By adding a few elements you can boost a mundane activity and turn it into "Marvelous!" 

Turn mundane into Marvelous
— Ho'omālamalama
 

Living Holistic

Living holistic is facing everyday challenges with the knowledge that you are creating a legacy. Everything you do today matters. There aren't coincidences because your life is filled with purpose which will guide you from the depths of your subconscious. That's why it's important to create a lifestyle that will support your subconscious. That's the holistic way of living. 

People who practice holistic living have one thing in common... harmony. The feeling that what you put out into the universe is full of beauty and light. These type of people are realist with a twist. The twist is that they may see negativity but they refuse to project it. I speaking from experience. 

Recently I was hanging out with a friend, whom I haven't seen in ages, and we both appreciate holistic, organic and entrepreneurship. My meet-up was interesting because her conversation was filled with frustration, dislike[s] and obscurities about our current president. Now I live in the same country and community which makes her realities mine. She wanted me to jump on the bashing bandwagon but I couldn't. [WHY?] I choose to emulate light. It's a tough road but worth it since I live with little to no regrets. 

5 KEYS TO UNLOCK YOUR HOLISTIC LIFESTYLE

  1. Observe what is around you.
  2. Write what you see into two columns: Like & Dislike
  3. Break down the 'Dislike' into two separate list: Change & Unchangeable
  4. Take the 'Unchangeable' list and LET IT GO.
  5. Use the 'Change' list and turn them into task. Tackle one task at a time. 
Holistic living is a daily and active choice, made by the courageous.
— Ho'omalamalama

About a year ago I wrote an article and taught others how to create a space for their subconscious to thrive. You can read about that experience here. The benefits come over time and you might not even notice it at first. I really enjoy teaching others how to accomplish "Subconscious Curating."

 
 
 
 
 

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Foodie before Fitness

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I was born a foodie in the warmth of Hawaii, where the freshest of ingredients were grown, harvested or fished. Much of that has changed since the island became a fast-food haven for instant meals. There was a time when your back yard provided papaya, avocado and mangoes. [mangos or mangoes?] My job, as a child, was to look for ripe fruit and bring it to the table.

Our parents weren't concerned about childhood obesity. We were too busy running on the sand, boogie boarding or climbing my grandfather's coconut tree. Food was colorful, organic and straight from the plant source. My how things have changed.

As a mother and a fitness foodie I've taught my children to prepare their own lunches. I want them to have a positive connection to food. 

 

You can learn how to "Eat Clean" with my 26 day: BEAUTIFUL BODY CHALLENGE [BBC]. The link will open the door to a sequence of simple prompts and videos.

 
Meals are the rituals of our body, it anoints our digestive system and blesses us with vibrant ENERGY.
— Ho'omālamalama

My first memory of lunches in America was negatively etched in my mind. Being a military brat I spent most of my childhood in Hawaii and eventually moved to the Mainland. [What we call the other 48 states, Mainland.] I didn't want my children to have that experience or think that food only came from a plastic bag. Which explains my connection to using glass containers since it doesn't change the quality of food the way plastic does. 

Fast forward to my career as a RNCP and fitness professional, what do I see? Individuals on diets that remind me of those icky school lunches. Bland and boring are two words that come to mind. I don't know about you but I'm with Jamie Oliver, we need quality food in our schools. [And more recess, but that's another subject.]

Below are 5 Meal Plan Basics to help jumpstart your holistic and fit life; besides taking my challenge. Link up above.

 

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5 meal plan basics

  1. Start with what you know. If you grew up with Southern food don't try a bunch of vegan food based off of Indian culture. [Indian: people from India, not Native American's who C.Columbus mislabeled.]
  2. Discover the power of labels. "No sugar" or "Natural" on packages has zero value compared to the label on the backside of the packaging. Learn more about this in the BBC.
  3. Swap out ingredients in your recipe. If you like ramen noodles try soba. If you use instant seasonings look for fresh herbs. Do a little research and look for a healthier alternative. Once you've found one, share it with others.
  4. Buy in bulk, with friends. I've noticed that Costco carries chia seeds, hemp hearts and other organic products but there's a downside. It's usually in a big bag and I might not finish it all. Create a friendly solution.
  5. Focus on one [1] meal-time. Maybe start with breakfast. Complete parts 1-4 with breakfast in mind and prep the first three days. Keep your meals fresh and full of flavor. Once you've mastered breakfast move on to the next meal. 
 

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PEACE BE the Journey

HOW TO STICK TO YOUR PLAN. PART 2

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I wanted to share this with my Mermaid community, eco & soul beauties, because I invested a lot of time and thought into answering their number one question: How do I stick to my plan? 

I don't take this subject lightly and want to stay connected with those who read and digest what I wrote. PEACE Be the Journey.

How to stick to your plan. PART 1

We live in a world of mass distractions. Some of them become part of a crazy cycle based on an un-finished TO-DO list.

Imagine waking up in the morning and you have a clear picture of what has to be done. Than life happens... it's the evening and you find yourself laying on the pillow wondering, "Where did the time go?" By the way, did you complete that single task? No, because something got in the way. Day after day and night after night we feel the pressure of INCOMPLETION. 

Don't worry you're not alone. We live in a push-notification era. Our unlimited data lifestyle bombards us with so many distractions. We crave success but we really need is the ability to focus.

Forget about planning for a minute and think about your ability to focus on your goals. How often do you have to stop what you're doing to help someone else? Have you ever had to put your work on-hold because of a text you received? Do you find yourself locked into FaceBook trying to respond to people?

Well you my friend are dealing with distractions. Keep reading, there's hope.

The theme: HOW TO STICK TO YOUR PLAN 

Was a landslide vote from my WholelisticFit FaceBook group. [Join Here] I asked them to suggest possible blog titles that they would like to read. I didn't answer their curiosity right away, in fact it took me awhile to break it down into its simplest form. Hmmm... why do we have problems sticking to our plans? After all is the plan faulty or are we faulty planners?

I realized that it has nothing to do with planning but everything to do with what's going on around us. Our environment is why we fail or succeed at anything. It's like Resolutions. The idea of making a Resolution isn't wrong but it often gets a bad rep. We surround a Resolution with so much unfair expectation. I personally like resolutions but I keep mine pretty simple. For instance: Read positive words. Easily done because everyone I follow on Instagram [Follow Here] comes from a positive background. I see positive post by default. Now back to you, I have a few positive things you can do called STICK TO YOUR PLAN [STYP] SECRETS to share along with a few tips that you can use when scheduling.

 

STYP SECRET #1

Learn your habits. Track what you do. 

 

STYP SECRET #2

Break down your plans into tiny task.

 

STYP SECRET #3

Learn to make adjustments as you flow.

 

Habits - Habits are what we do when we're not paying attention to ourselves. It's in our nature and part of our everyday choices. You don't have to think about it because it happens. For instance if I wanted to stop eating dairy I should look at the habit that I've formed around eating dairy. Perhaps I always walk down the ice cream isle, that's a habit, and grab a container as I shop. If you're failing at a particular part of your plan look at your habits. I suggest using a Habit-Tracker. It's just a way to mark your activities as they happen.    

 
 
 
 

Tiny Task - It's a psychological thing. We have to trick our minds into accepting the task and not sabotaging our efforts. For example: I plan to practice yoga at 6am three times per week but I can't seem to follow through. I did stick to my first day but the second and third session didn't happen. WHY? Because I stayed up late thinking I could manage it but when my alarm sounded I clicked the 'sleep' button for five more minutes. Realizing later that I over slept and decided to roll over and enjoy the extended nap. After all I'll get to it tomorrow... but the same scenario happens and I eventually give up the plan. *What I should have done is set up small task such as plan to attend one 6am session per week for a month then add a second next month and so on. Eventually reaching my goal, succeeding in my plan and adopting a NEW HEALTHY HABIT.

 
 
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Adjust - Much like my Tiny-Task example you'll notice that there was a an adjustment to the nature and flow of my yoga schedule. The plan wasn't bad but my execution needed some tweaking. As I've said before, "Tweak not twerk." Lol. Anyway, I had to train my self into a new habit by breaking down a big task into tiny steps. By accomplishing them I'm able to build my confidence and eventually tackle other projects and plans.  

 
 
 
 

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8 Characteristics of BEAUTY

The secret that can...  

unlock a Women's potential in a millennial world. 

I grew up believing that Beauty was a physical feature you were born with. Than I became a young adult and was convinced Beauty was in the soul of a grateful human being. However this changed when I met someone who shared a profound insight that I reveal in my book.   

I pondered for twenty years [yes 20 years] thinking about this question, "How do I walk in beauty?" In the mean time I traveled the world teaching Polynesian performing arts, working in cultural and holistic careers but never forgetting those words, "Walk In Beauty." In all honesty I was compelled and inspired to write my observations into a book from 1995 to 2001 but I couldn't. 

Eventually I got married and had a few kamali'i - little ones in Hawaiian language. By a few I mean seven [yes 7 children] who were about a year to two years apart. Motherhood and my career as a holistic fitness instructor kept me busy but when my oldest daughter was about to turn thirteen I remembered a previous endeavor. To write, edit and publish, "Walk In Beauty." After all, thirteen is a huge step away from childhood and my baby/big girl would need this book.  

So in 2016, during a year of extreme hardships [I'm saving that for another day] I decided to buckle down and write. The goal was to create a manual that would unravel Beauty's Secrets while combining creativity and self expression [aka: journaling]. I published it on March 15, 2017 on my youngest son's fourth birthday. Through much prayer and a bunch of edits the 5-Realms of Beauty existed in the form of a mobile friendly ebook.  

After publishing the book I started to define characteristics that seem flow among each and every realm. I picked out eight that really stood out to me. It was kind of a checklist for "Walk In Beauty" or what I call the WIB-Checklist.

Which of these 8 characteristics do you identify with?  

  • Self-Love: the ability to care for and nurture yourself.

  • Infectious Joy: happiness comes from within you, you manufacture joy.

  • Peaceful Mindset: because your foundation is built on self-love you can weather life.

  • Patient: time is a teacher and the journey is more important than the destination.

  • Kind Nature: because kindness is the most attractive commodity in any culture.

  • Consistent: diligence and perseverance are key factors in everything you do.

  • Self-Mastery: the number one attribute and this is why you walk in beauty.

  • Harmony: maintaining a sense of community in every arena of your life.    

I'll leave you with a little bit of my daily holistic practice of art-journaling. PEACE Be the Journey.