In order for me to write about fear I have to reveal a little about my journey.
I honestly didn't think I had an issue with success. Until I had an interesting conversation with a friend. She looked at me and said, "You give so much, that I don't think you value yourself enough."
My honest expression was "Huh?"
So I sat with this comment and let it marinate within my mind. I didn't defend or deny it, I just reflected. Then I realized that what I didn't value was my success!
Whoa... stop the press! How did I get to this place in my life? I had a real "aha" moment. I literally sabotaged myself to fail because success seemed too good for me.
So many thoughts streamed into my mind and I did the only thing possible, I wrote my thoughts and feelings down in my MAKE MAHALO PLANNER. [Mahalo: Hawaiian for gratitude or thank you.]
Pen in hand, I began a stream of conscious writing, a technique I learned from a good friend. This flow lasted for a solid five minutes. As I gazed down at my writing it revealed some of my inner struggles. It was as if my subconscious finally had my attention.
So if you're dealing with lack of self-respect, inability to charge for your services or constantly wondering... "What happened to my goals and dreams?" This post is for all of us. I too had a fear of success that prevented me from reaching my potential.
The 12 questions are from my personal experience.
Notate any feelings or emotions that may arise. Have an open mind and willingness to finish the entire post. Trust me, this blog gets better towards the end.
If you answered "YES" to any of these don't feel bad.
Like I said earlier these were written from personal experience. Look at the list without judgement but empathy. The same kindness that you would show to a friend, become that friend. Maybe pause and give yourself a hug for being brave enough to read the entire list. [BIG HUG]
Now if you've reached this portion and feel alone and overwhelmed, don't be. I can help in three ways. First, continue to read through the end of this blogpost for the 12 Steps to an abundant mindset. Second, read the eBook I wrote called WALK IN BEAUTY; unlock your potential. Third, become a MERMAID; join my email list because there's a possibility that you can work with me.
12 Steps to an abundant mindset.
- Be excited when starting something new and break down your plan into smaller steps. Sometimes we give up mid-way because the excitement can make us feel overwhelmed. Take time to write down your idea and create simple task.
- STOP comparing yourself! That's one of the worse things any human being can do. There's a saying in my home, "Your only competition is NO-ONE, just be your best!"
- You don't have to start every project that comes to your creative mind. Get a box and label it IDEAS then write them down with a date. Honor your creativity but don't get distracted. Have a place to revisit your ideas when you've completed what you started.
- Learn to say NO. Abundance doesn't mean that you're saying yes to everyone. Reserve some time in the day to honor your wellness. You can not reverse time but you can spend it wisely.
- Be cautious. Before you promote someone's product, fundraiser or Facebook page consider if they're doing the same for you? This also applies to love. Do you receive love, at the same measure or more that you give it. [Lessons of LOVE are in my eBook.]
- You can not give from an empty cup. Make a habit of self-care and schedule it weekly. Abundance is a reflection of your inner and exterior health.
- Create rituals of motivation. It can be centered around your spiritual practice or keeping a gratitude journal. Because there will come a time when you have to draw from a well of inspiration. Make sure that you're filling that well, your mind, with good thoughts.
- When feeling mundane... acknowledge it and do step #7. An abundant mind isn't void of sorrow or mishaps but it is equipped with tools of inspiration.
- When you realize that success made a detour don't stress out. History is jammed packed with individuals who met with opposition after opposition. Borrow their stories and use it to help you realign, adjust and reimagine your dream.
- Allow yourself to experience simple successes. It will help rebuild your self confidence and eventually you will step into fulfilling that previous dream. [For some it can be loosing a few inches or learning to play the piano.]
- Breathe. The opposite of fear is love and abundance. You can not change what you will not acknowledge. This awakening will allow you to embrace success. Your success!
- Failure is an indication that your dream is closer then you think. Keep moving, you'll get there. Just remember that you can always ask for help.
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