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How to get over a fear of success.

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In order for me to write about fear I have to reveal a little about my journey.

I honestly didn't think I had an issue with success. Until I had an interesting conversation with a friend. She looked at me and said, "You give so much, that I don't think you value yourself enough."

My honest expression was "Huh?" 

So I sat with this comment and let it marinate within my mind. I didn't defend or deny it, I just reflected. Then I realized that what I didn't value was my success

Whoa... stop the press! How did I get to this place in my life? I had a real "aha" moment. I literally sabotaged myself to fail because success seemed too good for me.

Success is a belief, long before it becomes a reality. Yet it’s in that hallowed place of inception that we fear the delivery. Let fear pass, breathe and deliver. You are meant to succeed!
— Ho'omālamalama

So many thoughts streamed into my mind and I did the only thing possible, I wrote my thoughts and feelings down in my MAKE MAHALO PLANNER. [Mahalo: Hawaiian for gratitude or thank you.]

Pen in hand, I began a stream of conscious writing, a technique I learned from a good friend. This flow lasted for a solid five minutes. As I gazed down at my writing it revealed some of my inner struggles. It was as if my subconscious finally had my attention.

So if you're dealing with lack of self-respect, inability to charge for your services or constantly wondering... "What happened to my goals and dreams?" This post is for all of us. I too had a fear of success that prevented me from reaching my potential.

The 12 questions are from my personal experience. 

Notate any feelings or emotions that may arise. Have an open mind and willingness to finish the entire post. Trust me, this blog gets better towards the end.

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If you answered "YES" to any of these don't feel bad.

Like I said earlier these were written from personal experience. Look at the list without judgement but empathy. The same kindness that you would show to a friend, become that friend. Maybe pause and give yourself a hug for being brave enough to read the entire list. [BIG HUG]

Now if you've reached this portion and feel alone and overwhelmed, don't be. I can help in three ways. First, continue to read through the end of this blogpost for the 12 Steps to an abundant mindset. Second, read the eBook I wrote called WALK IN BEAUTY; unlock your potential. Third, become a MERMAID; join my email list because there's a possibility that you can work with me. 

12 Steps to an abundant mindset.

  1. Be excited when starting something new and break down your plan into smaller steps. Sometimes we give up mid-way because the excitement can make us feel overwhelmed. Take time to write down your idea and create simple task.
  2. STOP comparing yourself! That's one of the worse things any human being can do. There's a saying in my home, "Your only competition is  NO-ONE, just be your best!"
  3. You don't have to start every project that comes to your creative mind. Get a box and label it IDEAS then write them down with a date. Honor your creativity but don't get distracted. Have a place to revisit your ideas when you've completed what you started. 
  4. Learn to say NO. Abundance doesn't mean that you're saying yes to everyone. Reserve some time in the day to honor your wellness. You can not reverse time but you can spend it wisely.
  5. Be cautious. Before you promote someone's product, fundraiser or Facebook page consider if they're doing the same for you? This also applies to love. Do you receive love, at the same measure or more that you give it. [Lessons of LOVE are in my eBook.]
  6. You can not give from an empty cup. Make a habit of self-care and schedule it weekly. Abundance is a reflection of your inner and exterior health.
  7. Create rituals of motivation. It can be centered around your spiritual practice or keeping a gratitude journal. Because there will come a time when you have to draw from a well of inspiration. Make sure that you're filling that well, your mind, with good thoughts.
  8. When feeling mundane... acknowledge it and do step #7. An abundant mind isn't void of sorrow or mishaps but it is equipped with tools of inspiration.
  9. When you realize that success made a detour don't stress out. History is jammed packed with individuals who met with opposition after opposition. Borrow their stories and use it to help you realign, adjust and reimagine your dream.
  10. Allow yourself to experience simple successes. It will help rebuild your self confidence and eventually you will step into fulfilling that previous dream. [For some it can be loosing a few inches or learning to play the piano.]
  11. Breathe. The opposite of fear is love and abundance. You can not change what you will not acknowledge. This awakening will allow you to embrace success. Your success!
  12. Failure is an indication that your dream is closer then you think. Keep moving, you'll get there. Just remember that you can always ask for help.       

Are you at a place in your life that you need a coach to reach the next level of success? Become a MERMAID to learn more about our programs.

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The benefits of working with a me is that you don't have to remember everything you just read. I'm creating eCourses, eBooks and programs for work/life balance. If you invest the time I will invest my attention to walking with you. Make sure you're a MERMAID. 

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How to stick to your plan. PART 1

We live in a world of mass distractions. Some of them become part of a crazy cycle based on an un-finished TO-DO list.

Imagine waking up in the morning and you have a clear picture of what has to be done. Than life happens... it's the evening and you find yourself laying on the pillow wondering, "Where did the time go?" By the way, did you complete that single task? No, because something got in the way. Day after day and night after night we feel the pressure of INCOMPLETION. 

Don't worry you're not alone. We live in a push-notification era. Our unlimited data lifestyle bombards us with so many distractions. We crave success but we really need is the ability to focus.

Forget about planning for a minute and think about your ability to focus on your goals. How often do you have to stop what you're doing to help someone else? Have you ever had to put your work on-hold because of a text you received? Do you find yourself locked into FaceBook trying to respond to people?

Well you my friend are dealing with distractions. Keep reading, there's hope.

The theme: HOW TO STICK TO YOUR PLAN 

Was a landslide vote from my WholelisticFit FaceBook group. [Join Here] I asked them to suggest possible blog titles that they would like to read. I didn't answer their curiosity right away, in fact it took me awhile to break it down into its simplest form. Hmmm... why do we have problems sticking to our plans? After all is the plan faulty or are we faulty planners?

I realized that it has nothing to do with planning but everything to do with what's going on around us. Our environment is why we fail or succeed at anything. It's like Resolutions. The idea of making a Resolution isn't wrong but it often gets a bad rep. We surround a Resolution with so much unfair expectation. I personally like resolutions but I keep mine pretty simple. For instance: Read positive words. Easily done because everyone I follow on Instagram [Follow Here] comes from a positive background. I see positive post by default. Now back to you, I have a few positive things you can do called STICK TO YOUR PLAN [STYP] SECRETS to share along with a few tips that you can use when scheduling.

 

STYP SECRET #1

Learn your habits. Track what you do. 

 

STYP SECRET #2

Break down your plans into tiny task.

 

STYP SECRET #3

Learn to make adjustments as you flow.

 

Habits - Habits are what we do when we're not paying attention to ourselves. It's in our nature and part of our everyday choices. You don't have to think about it because it happens. For instance if I wanted to stop eating dairy I should look at the habit that I've formed around eating dairy. Perhaps I always walk down the ice cream isle, that's a habit, and grab a container as I shop. If you're failing at a particular part of your plan look at your habits. I suggest using a Habit-Tracker. It's just a way to mark your activities as they happen.    

 
 
 
 

Tiny Task - It's a psychological thing. We have to trick our minds into accepting the task and not sabotaging our efforts. For example: I plan to practice yoga at 6am three times per week but I can't seem to follow through. I did stick to my first day but the second and third session didn't happen. WHY? Because I stayed up late thinking I could manage it but when my alarm sounded I clicked the 'sleep' button for five more minutes. Realizing later that I over slept and decided to roll over and enjoy the extended nap. After all I'll get to it tomorrow... but the same scenario happens and I eventually give up the plan. *What I should have done is set up small task such as plan to attend one 6am session per week for a month then add a second next month and so on. Eventually reaching my goal, succeeding in my plan and adopting a NEW HEALTHY HABIT.

 
 
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Adjust - Much like my Tiny-Task example you'll notice that there was a an adjustment to the nature and flow of my yoga schedule. The plan wasn't bad but my execution needed some tweaking. As I've said before, "Tweak not twerk." Lol. Anyway, I had to train my self into a new habit by breaking down a big task into tiny steps. By accomplishing them I'm able to build my confidence and eventually tackle other projects and plans.  

 
 
 
 

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  • Learn the process to track your habits.

  • Learn how to categorize your priorities.

  • Learn the creative way to de-clutter the mind.