Habits and Rituals

HABITS: trained to do.

RITUAL: habit with heart.

Habits are always happening regardless of them being negative or positive. It becomes a part of our daily lives and we might not even notice our habits. Like the way you hold a pen, where you place your keys or how often you drink water. Even sloppiness can turn into a habit.

Rituals, however are significant because it allows you to take a habit and make it soulful. By adding a few elements you can boost a mundane activity and turn it into "Marvelous!" 

Turn mundane into Marvelous
— Ho'omālamalama
 

Living Holistic

Living holistic is facing everyday challenges with the knowledge that you are creating a legacy. Everything you do today matters. There aren't coincidences because your life is filled with purpose which will guide you from the depths of your subconscious. That's why it's important to create a lifestyle that will support your subconscious. That's the holistic way of living. 

People who practice holistic living have one thing in common... harmony. The feeling that what you put out into the universe is full of beauty and light. These type of people are realist with a twist. The twist is that they may see negativity but they refuse to project it. I speaking from experience. 

Recently I was hanging out with a friend, whom I haven't seen in ages, and we both appreciate holistic, organic and entrepreneurship. My meet-up was interesting because her conversation was filled with frustration, dislike[s] and obscurities about our current president. Now I live in the same country and community which makes her realities mine. She wanted me to jump on the bashing bandwagon but I couldn't. [WHY?] I choose to emulate light. It's a tough road but worth it since I live with little to no regrets. 

5 KEYS TO UNLOCK YOUR HOLISTIC LIFESTYLE

  1. Observe what is around you.

  2. Write what you see into two columns: Like & Dislike

  3. Break down the 'Dislike' into two separate list: Change & Unchangeable

  4. Take the 'Unchangeable' list and LET IT GO.

  5. Use the 'Change' list and turn them into task. Tackle one task at a time. 

Holistic living is a daily and active choice, made by the courageous.
— Ho'omalamalama

About a year ago I wrote an article and taught others how to create a space for their subconscious to thrive. You can read about that experience here. The benefits come over time and you might not even notice it at first. I really enjoy teaching others how to accomplish "Subconscious Curating."

 
 
 
 
 
  • What type of habits are you proud of?

  • What rituals have you created?

  • Would you like to start a NEW habit or ritual?

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How to stick to your plan. PART 1

We live in a world of mass distractions. Some of them become part of a crazy cycle based on an un-finished TO-DO list.

Imagine waking up in the morning and you have a clear picture of what has to be done. Than life happens... it's the evening and you find yourself laying on the pillow wondering, "Where did the time go?" By the way, did you complete that single task? No, because something got in the way. Day after day and night after night we feel the pressure of INCOMPLETION. 

Don't worry you're not alone. We live in a push-notification era. Our unlimited data lifestyle bombards us with so many distractions. We crave success but we really need is the ability to focus.

Forget about planning for a minute and think about your ability to focus on your goals. How often do you have to stop what you're doing to help someone else? Have you ever had to put your work on-hold because of a text you received? Do you find yourself locked into FaceBook trying to respond to people?

Well you my friend are dealing with distractions. Keep reading, there's hope.


The theme: HOW TO STICK TO YOUR PLAN 

I realized that it has nothing to do with planning but everything to do with what's going on around us. Our environment is why we fail to succeed at anything. It's like Resolutions. The idea of making a Resolution isn't wrong but it often gets a bad rep. We surround a Resolution with so much unfair expectation. I personally like resolutions but I keep mine pretty simple. For instance: Read positive words. Easily done because everyone I follow on Instagram [Follow Here] comes from a positive background. I see positive post by default. Now back to you, I have a few positive things you can do called STICK TO YOUR PLAN [STYP] SECRETS to share along with a few tips that you can use when scheduling.

STYP SECRET #1

Learn your habits. Track what you do. 

 

STYP SECRET #2

Break down your plans into tiny task.

 

STYP SECRET #3

Learn to make adjustments as you flow.

 

Habits - Habits are what we do when we're not paying attention to ourselves. It's in our nature and part of our everyday choices. You don't have to think about it because it happens. For instance if I wanted to stop eating dairy I should look at the habit that I've formed around eating dairy. Perhaps I always walk down the ice cream isle, that's a habit, and grab a container as I shop. If you're failing at a particular part of your plan look at your habits. I suggest using a Habit-Tracker. It's just a way to mark your activities as they happen.    

 
 
 
 

Tiny Task - It's a psychological thing. We have to trick our minds into accepting the task and not sabotaging our efforts. For example: I plan to practice yoga at 6am three times per week but I can't seem to follow through. I did stick to my first day but the second and third session didn't happen. WHY? Because I stayed up late thinking I could manage it but when my alarm sounded I clicked the 'sleep' button for five more minutes. Realizing later that I over slept and decided to roll over and enjoy the extended nap. After all I'll get to it tomorrow... but the same scenario happens and I eventually give up the plan. *What I should have done is set up small task such as plan to attend one 6am session per week for a month then add a second next month and so on. Eventually reaching my goal, succeeding in my plan and adopting a NEW HEALTHY HABIT.

 
 
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Adjust - Much like my Tiny-Task example you'll notice that there was a an adjustment to the nature and flow of my yoga schedule. The plan wasn't bad but my execution needed some tweaking. As I've said before, "Tweak not twerk." Lol. Anyway, I had to train my self into a new habit by breaking down a big task into tiny steps. By accomplishing them I'm able to build my confidence and eventually tackle other projects and plans.  

 
 
 
 

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  • Learn the process to track your habits.

  • Learn how to categorize your priorities.

  • Learn the creative way to de-clutter the mind.

8 Characteristics of BEAUTY

The secret that will...  

Unlock your potential and give you wings to soar over obstacles.

I grew up believing that Beauty was a physical feature you were born with. Than I became a young adult and was convinced Beauty was in the soul of a grateful human being. However this changed when I met someone who shared a profound insight that I reveal in my ebook.   

I pondered for twenty years [yes 20 years] thinking about this question, "How do I walk in beauty?" In the mean time I traveled the world teaching Polynesian performing arts, working in cultural and holistic careers but never forgetting those words, "Walk In Beauty." In all honesty I was compelled and inspired to write my observations into a book from 1995 to 2001 but I couldn't. 

Eventually I got married and had a few kamali'i - little ones in Hawaiian language. By a few I mean seven [yes 7 children] who were about a year to two years apart. Motherhood and my career as a holistic fitness instructor kept me busy but when my oldest daughter was about to turn thirteen I remembered a previous endeavor. To write, edit and publish, "Walk In Beauty." After all, thirteen is a huge step away from childhood and my baby/big girl would need this book.  

So in 2016, during a year of extreme hardships [I'm saving that for another day] I decided to buckle down and write. The goal was to create a manual that would unravel Beauty's Secrets while combining creativity and self expression [aka: journaling]. I published it on March 15, 2017 on my youngest son's fourth birthday. Through much prayer and a bunch of edits the 5-Realms of Beauty existed in the form of a mobile friendly ebook.  



After publishing the book I started to define characteristics that seem flow among each and every realm. I picked out eight that really stood out to me. It was kind of a checklist for "Walk In Beauty" or what I call the WIB-Checklist.

Which of these 8 characteristics do you identify with?  

  • Self-Love: the ability to care for and nurture yourself.

  • Infectious Joy: happiness comes from within you, you manufacture joy.

  • Peaceful Mindset: because your foundation is built on self-love you can weather life.

  • Patient: time is a teacher and the journey is more important than the destination.

  • Kind Nature: because kindness is the most attractive commodity in any culture.

  • Consistent: diligence and perseverance are key factors in everything you do.

  • Self-Mastery: the number one attribute and this is why you walk in beauty.

  • Harmony: maintaining a sense of community in every arena of your life.    

I'll leave you with a little bit of my daily holistic practice of art-journaling. PEACE Be the Journey.